I thought I’d go ahead and kick off my advice section with the monumental task of helping you all find happiness. The pursuit of happiness is one of those conundrums that can take a lifetime to figure out and I won’t pretend to have all of the answers, but I believe that these tips will set the ground for you all to follow your own dreams and to ultimately be happy in yourself. 🙂
- THINK POSITIVE
Sounds obvious, annoyingly obvious and easier said than done – I know. But my Grandmother always says ‘How you think, is how you feel’ and it’s true! You, and you alone have the power to decide how to think. When depression hits, it can be so tough to feel anything at all, let alone happiness. It’s a terrible time of emptiness and loneliness, but you are the only person who can change that – get up (however much you want to drown in your bedsheets and sleep until you’re happy) and do something, anything! The goal is to want to help yourself, to want to get out of bed and find something to make you feel happy again. Try: drawing, running (or walking haha), going to a museum, reading your favourite book, meeting up with a friend or just simply getting some fresh air. Just do something you love – even if it feels like you don’t love it anymore. After all, happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one simply remembers to turn on the light. 2. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
It’s hard to believe in yourself when it feels like nobody around you cares enough to believe in you. That’s unfortunately the way the world has become now though, most people only care about themselves and how to make their own lives better. It’s difficult to believe we can do something when nobody cares whether you can or can’t. But in the words of Taylor Swift, just shake it off. The only person that matters is you, and you can do absolutely anything you set your mind to – I promise. Hard work pays off in the end, and I believe in all of you.
Never, ever, let anybody tell you that you can’t achieve your dreams, or that your dreams aren’t rational enough or cool enough or within your reach. They are, you just need a whole lot of self belief, and if you took on board my last post, i’m sure you’ll have plenty by now. Everyone I know has laughed at my dream (my family included), but I don’t care, never let go of a dream just because somebody else doesn’t see the world like you. If it’ll make you happy, then go for it with everything you have. Accomplishing a dream (I imagine) must feel incredible, but dreaming up your dreams is just as good a source of happiness. Always allow yourself to dream, after all, a dream is a wish your heart makes when you’re fast asleep!
4. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART
I found myself in a bit of a dark place recently, after letting pretty much everyone walk all over me. I find it hard to stand up for myself and confront other people – it’s just not in my nature. But it’s something i’ll have to learn to do, because you cannot let people walk all over you, you must listen to your heart and stand up for what is best for you. You know what’s best for yourself and you can’t be afraid to seize that. That’s a lesson i’ll have to learn too. Listen to your heart, and do whatever makes it overflow with happiness <3
5. HAVE COURAGE AND BE KIND
Probably my favourite tip – have the courage to stand up for yourself but don’t put others down in the process. It’s about finding the balance between kindness and the bravery to stand by your own conviction. All happiness disperses if you let people use you, you are not an object to be used, you are an amazing human being, with dreams and ideas and morals that you should voice! Be kind to yourself most of all and have the courage to voice them!
6. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF
When people tell me they find it hard to like themselves, let alone love themselves, it makes me sadder than they’ll ever know. Because it really takes a lot to get to that point, where you’ve lost all interest in not only the world, but in yourself, and it’s difficult to come back from that point. Difficult – but never impossible. Loving yourself means accepting your imperfections. Don’t be fooled by anybody – we all have them, nobody as a person and nobody’s life is 100% perfect. There will always be someone smarter, prettier or more talented at something than you are – who cares. Comparison is the thief of joy. You’ll never be happy chasing after somebody else’s life, and you never know, that person could long for the life you lead. Make the most of everything you’ve got and be proud of it. You are extraordinarily unique, perfectly imperfect and B E A U T I F U L!!
7. BE YOURSELF
It’s easy to lose yourself when making your way through life. It’s easy to agree with someone’s opinion just to avoid an argument. Easy to act differently to fit in. Easy to become a bully to prove yourself to a certain crowd. But the easiest path is not always the right path, and to be happy, you can’t change who you are or surround yourself with people who want you to change. That doesn’t mean that you can’t grow as a person though, to notice traits in people that you like and to build your character for the better. Always stay true to yourself, and you’ll be doing something right.
8. SEIZE THE DAY
Very simple – make the most of each and every day! Try making a goal each night for the next morning and sticking to it. Whilst I’m a lover of a pyjama day or two (or 1,000), it feels much better to accomplish something in a day.
9. APPRECIATE THE LITTLE THINGS
It’s also very easy to overlook life’s simple pleasures and the beauty all around us each day. Take a moment when walking to school or work to really see the world for the incredible place it is. Whenever you’re feeling low, remember how wonderful life can be, it won’t seem wonderful to you at that moment, but hold on, keep living, because your life is priceless and there’s so much of the world to discover.
We’ve gotten to the stage in the human race, were no-one makes eye contact with each other any more – let alone smiles. A smile can brighten someone’s day, start a friendship and even save a life – and it’s free. There should be smiles all round! In your pursuit of happiness, don’t forget that everyone else is searching for it too, and you could help them. Be kind and smile and do a good dead. Little things can make somebody else’s day. If everyone lived by this rule, we would no longer be searching for happiness.
I know this blog post has been more like a college essay in length, but when I start I just can’t stop! The advice just gushes out of me these days. I hope you guys take at least one of these on board.
Good luck finding your happiness everyone, and if you have any more secrets to being happy, leave a comment down below!
Stay strong (I believe you can)